PREGNANCY JOURNEY MADE EASY!
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Alex's Story

At first, being a father is really easy. There is this rather large bump that has emerged in your partner’s belly, who occasionally announces his presence with a large kick on her abdomen. Sure, it’s difficult that your partner can no longer walk more than 100 metres, and your hand has actually worn thinner from all the back rubbing, but I thought “I can cope with this”, whilst looking what kids’ football teams there are in the local area.

The sheer terror starts to bubble up inside when labour activates. Something, that for you has been set to occur ‘at some point in the future’, is actually HAPPENING RIGHT NOW.  Manners, caring and reason just disappear in an instant from your partner; your part in “the family” is relegated to a distant third (and it never really comes back).At this point, your entire existence is to serve the mother; and let’s face it we’re getting the good side of the bargain. As the labour intensifies, and you bear witness to all the suffering your partner is going through, you wonder whether it was all a mistake to start this crazy idea of ‘having a family’. Your partner will readily agree with this, and may yell out “what have you done to me” (with a few additional obscenities).

Whilst your brain is going into overdrive on how to process all these raw emotions, and nothing is really making sense, you have to remain an island of calm in a very chaotic sea. It may occur to you that you should’ve bought chain-mail gloves for this next bit (as the hand-holding so far has been like having your arm stuck in a revolving door). Hopefully having done your research, you are in a good hospital where there are professionals to make sense of things for you. However, one of your first added ‘responsibilities’ is to ensure that there are no lapses or gaps in the care received, particularly when things peak, and your partner is at her most vulnerable (she might be making faces that definitely look different from when you had first met at this point).

As doubt, fear, panic, pride, love and exhaustion all compete for primacy in your mind, it is suddenly happens. You are now officially a father, and that will never change for you until the day you die. Just at that moment, I remember thinking “How am I going to feel about this?” Will it really be one of those life-changing moments, like in movies? Or will I be reading the sports results in the newspaper once they both fallen asleep? The midwife then cleans up the new little person, you can hear the crying, and she hands the parcel to you. And you smile. You smile the biggest smile you ever have in your life. And no one really knows why, but you think, this is the best thing ever.

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